1. I've been jinxed

Little do people realise that they have to fail in order to succeed. People often wail and rant on how they are being unlucky, not to achieve their targets. Of course they would probably repeat the legendary quotes, "you sow what you reap", and eventually trying to reminisce all the efforts they have been putting all this while. Yes, it's not wrong to recognise the efforts, but you sure forget that those people who are listed as successful today, they have also been through the can of worms in their life. Thus, as someone who wants to climb the stair of success, you just need to come hell or high water. So, if you are having a rough moment when you don't perform as you plan, raise your head, pat your shoulder, and say, "It's okay, fail is the door to success." With of course, the mentality to improve and work harder. Keep in mind, it will never be a smooth sails.



2. Perfect scor-ish wanna be

When i was a little bit younger (than now), I have always been chasing to get a perfect score. To be honest, i even cried if i don't get the highest mark in class for certain subjects. Little did i understand that by achieving perfect score, it doesn't worth anything. Of course, you will get people to say you are smart, and to be listed in the dean list, but hey does your score feed you food or something? Some will nod, which is legit, because with the good scores, they get scholarship to survive. However, you will be unhappy with yourself if you have that kind of mentality most of the time. You need to appreciate yourself, and always be grateful for whatever scores that you get and keep reminding yourself, "I need to pray as hard as I work for it". I would rather imagine success as an object. If you get it easily, you hardly appreciate it. But if its hard for you to buy it, you will cherish it. So if its too easy for you to get it, and apparently make you look down in the mouth even if you have everything in the world, what is life if there is no happiness?



3. Face only a mother could love

As we grow "younger", we will be totally immersed with the perspective of beautiful is perfection. Well, everyone is eager to have beautiful as their second name. There is totally nothing wrong with that, but please know that you don't have to dress to impress anybody except yourself. If I have the chance to say to my mini-Me, I probably would say she looks like a million dollar as long as she keeps everything hygiene, and practice sufficient skin care. Lol. Beauty is the opposite of perfection, it's about charisma, confidence and character.





Love,
the confidence of that sweater girl.

This is for girls who stay up all night
This is for you who are willing to fight
For hidden fears hurts pain and tears
Under the smile, laughs and giggles we hear
let your hair down straight or curls
You are beautiful because you fight like a girl

for girls who wear short skirts and their hearts on their sleeves
for the girls who knows how difficult it is to believe
the girls who scream and cry to their pillows and tell 'em their goals
for girls who have a secret but can't tell us all
let your eyes be your diamonds and make them your pearls
You are beautiful because you fight like a girl

for girls who have made mistakes and had regrets galore
the girls that may not win but always get up on the floor
the girls who take life as it comes
the girls who have broken the code
for the girls who hope that it'll get better somewhere down the road
let your steps be your dance and jump and do the swirl
You are beautiful because you fight like a girl

for the girls who love with all their hearts, although it sometimes get broke
to girls who think its over
to real girls, to all girls who have tears to soak
You throw, you pick up and fall but just tell the world
I'm beautiful because i fight like a girl


-shah rukh

Roaming in Dunedin

Bismillah. Alhamdulillah recently attended marriage seminar under Al-Maghrib called love notes.  I must say this is not my first time following Al-Maghrib event but maybe sixth or seventh time, since it is just super amazingly beneficial seminar i can find. Worth every dollar. So here i am, trying to share few things that i find newest to me and I hope you glad to read it.

I know, people in my ages would probably wonder, how can we know the love is permissible or not. We certainly aware that love comes from the heart, and "Hearts are between the fingers of Allah, and He flips them the way He wishes" (Sahih Muslim 6418). Thus having a feeling for someone is a sign of perfection. But not to forget Ibnu Qayyim also said,"love is divided into two types: one is optional and one is not. The optional is what leads to love (eyesight, association) and this is the love that you must beware. The non-optional love, if it happens by the sudden look, but above all it is how you react to it that Allah will hold accountability to it." In a simple way it means, look on your action, then you know the love is genuine or fake. 

One story that i remembered the sheikh told us, there was a slave (lady) named Barirah married to Mughith. Since she was a slave, she was forced to marry him. But when 'Aisyah R.A set her free, she demand to divorce with her husband. However, the husband love her so much that she asked Abu Bakar, Umar to tell Barirah how much he loves her, and he wants her back. But Barirah listens to no one. Then, Mughith asked Rasulullah SAW to tell her the same, and Rasullah do as he requested. But Barirah choose not to. Mughith was devastated. One day, Rasulullah SAW was with Abbas when he saw them on the street, since Mughith keeps following Barirah and Rasulullah SAW said,"O Abbas! Isn't it amazing how much Mughith loves Barirah and how much Barirah hates Mughith?"(Bukhari)

It shows how love can be astonishing at some point even Rasulullah SAW amazed by it. Eventhough, Mughith was crazy over his wife, Rasulullah SAW let him be, so that at one point he realises what he was doing, and recover himself.

Speaking of marriage I remembered one story when 'Aisyah RA got jealous with the other wife. One day, Rasulullah SAW asked 'Aisyah RA to go with him to grab a meal at one of the wife who was good in cooking. And when the wife bring the meal to Rasulullah SAW he looked delighted, and 'Aisyah got jealous and break the plate, so some of the food fell to the ground. Rasulullah SAW knew 'Aisyah got jealous, thus he feed her with the food that has not fell off, and said to her, you might like this. 'Aisyah was delighted and so on the way back, Rasulullah said to her, maybe the wife will also love to try the food that you have made.

In the story, there are few wisdoms of Rasulullah SAW responded to 'Aisyah RA jealousy. He didn't get angry even though 'Aisyah broke the plate but instead calm her. Second, he didn't offend 'Aisyah in a way,"Please replace the broken plate" instead, "why not you share to her what you have cooked?"

Its truly amazing on how Rasulullah reacts to his wives and he was a very thoughtful person. So hopefully, we can act like how Rasulullah did to his spouse and learn from his wisdoms. Insya ALLAH. Indeed he is the greatest example of human beings.

I would highly recommend you, to join this Al-Maghrib event be it fiqh of marriage or dua and dzikr or solat. Every single topics are as important, and you can check them out at Al-Maghrib and the seminar is all over the world, especially UK, US, Australia and Canada. If you are from UTP, you can try to give your name to NIC (Nur Islamic Centre) in order to get sponsored to attend this seminar. May Allah ease the path you take in order to get some knowledges.

So Alhamdulillah, here are some notes that I've made for the two days seminar;





P/S: i apologize for my not-well-done-look-like-doctor handwriting. Cant help it.



Thats all for now. I'm already hungry. Assalamualaikum. Tak jawab dosa, kalau jawab sayang :)

Bismillah,

May we all in a good condition of health.

Well, this time round its quite hard for me to type that fast since one of my finger swollen up after a basketball competition. So yup, this time round, no lengthy post, promise.

Where was I? All this while, didn't have the time to update my Melbourne trip, Sydney and Auckland. Sorry. Will try to make it up later.

So as you can see the title of this post is about A'isyah. Not just a normal A'isyah, though my current roomate named A'isyah. But this one is about Rasulullah's wife. Rasulullah SAW. So there is one point, or I would say one thing that I would want to be as I grow old (well I don't grow up anymore :p), is to be somebody knowledgable. But of course not just one kind of knowledgeable.

We are all aware that during, Abasiyyah Age, Ilmuwan Islam (pardon me, cant remember the correct english term) were very famous across the border, to the extend even the West people learnt from them. They empower field not just in medicine but also in astronomy, mathematics, architecture, hadis, islamic law and many more. But what happens today? We only focus in one stream, and that is the only thing we ought to know, and want to empower. Yes, having specialized field is encouraged, but that doesn't mean, we should just leave other knowledge to other people. Well, we should know some points.

If we are not interested in becoming lecturer to teach others about it, just give a thought about our future children. Well, that is the only thing i could think of right now. I mean like seriously, i'm pretty sure my kids will be asking numerous questions, and how i wish i know the answers. :)

So that is why, i chose to take minor subjects. Tough? At first, couldn't see the upcoming challenges, but as i entered week 4, i got it! haha. I was actually challenging my limit. 21 credit hours seems not very heavy at first, but wait till the moment all the projects came in and the test, yikes! haha. Tough is tough. But with the help of my best friend, Yuanita, got to say, we overcome the hurdles together. What kind of hurdles? The moment ur classmate can wake up late because of no class in the morning, u wake up early to go to management class. The moment, when ur classmates end the class for the day, u still have night class to catch up. There is a point u would cry because ur too tired. Literally!

But by remembering the initial reason, maybe bit by bit, ur tiredness will go away. But i tell u, finance and accounting class are more fun than engineering class. Maybe coz im too used to engineering class. The lecturer always make jokes and of course, the first hour i would be sleeping exhaustively in the front row. Even the lecturer noticed it. (Engineering class, u sleep, u lose ur way).

This semester gets even tougher, though i just participate in two events but i tell u, both are international. And the challenges are no kidding. One job scope, is to manage the public relations department which means contacting the international people. Second is to manage trip to Melbourne for dakwah purpose. Another tough thingy. I cannot count how much i cry out of tiredness, out of sickness to just manage things, juggling with my 21 credit hours. I would burst into tears suddenly and sitting at one corner, looking at the cats, wishing how i can be lazy sleeping playing around like them. (omg, i'm jealous of cats).

But the moment, that feeling strikes in, how tired life is, i would be reminding myself, how life should be tired to the Muslim, because life is not our destination. Its a journey! Yeay! One point to get up. And also just to motivate myself, of course i have no boyfriend to give supports -.-, i remembered how Rasulullah SAW gave Fatimah advices to keep zikir when she feels tired doing the chores despite of not having maid. Though im no-wife yet, but who says i cant practice it ;p.


Okay that's all. Till u read next one :D

Bismillah..

Alhamdulillah.. here i am in the particular university that i told you two months ago~ Alhamdulillah :) He is the best planner right?? after confronting hardships and misery, here i am to gain knowledge in engineering field. Alhamdulillah. Thanks to Allah. Praise to Allah.

ok. 5 more days to Ramadhan Al-Mubarak.
:) welcome to the month that full of His Mercy.

Ok ok. So what is the input for today? hmmm... let me think.

Today's theme is  you have to think it for yourself.. *i need you to digest it*

Ok, so what now? its about the story of two pair of shoes. (since i like shoes, i chose it)

One pair, is a display one. The other one is in a beautiful box, nice and clean. So, one day, there is a guy came into that shop. He is interested in the shoes. The display one. But he just try it, to make sure the size, but at the end, did he buy it? Yes. Of course, he bought it, but not the display one, but the one is in the beautiful box. Why did he do that? If i were him, of course i did the same thing. I want the clean one, the one that nobody had tried before.  Got the message?

In case if you don't understand, please read it, again and again. OK? :D

A REALLY SWEET REMINDER FOR YOU AND ME <3